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In Attack of the Clones, Yoda turns to his students to ask them a question and after their response he states, "Truly wonderful, the mind of child is."
Indeed, how wonderful it is, but it goes even further than that. The mind of the baby in the womb is wonderful and interacting with mom each day, so much so that babies are also active participants in birth.
Dr. Thomas Verny, author of The Secret Life of the Unborn Child, writes that babies are cognizant in the womb. They are interacting based on the experiences they receive from its mother interacting in the world. The baby learns to adapt to the changes that mother experiences from stress to happiness, when she sleeps, and when she eats.
Why is this important to know?
Because you can connect with your baby in the womb on an emotional level. and it is both healthy for baby and for mom. It is normal to talk to your baby, sing to your baby, read to your baby and play with your baby (belly). You can even send thoughts from the mother "force" to your baby (hypnosis). Begin nurturing and caring for the mind of your child even in the womb and enjoy those moments of bonding as you prepare for the birth of that child earth side.
Touch, Connect, Sing, Read - it is never too early.
This idea of pre-birth bonding is discussed in our HypnoBirthing classes in Northern Virginia along with much more wisdom to help you plan and prepare for your birthing day!
Some mothers and/ or fathers get to that time in their pregnancy where they begin to realize their provider has been leading them on or they feel their provider no longer supports their birth preferences. Here are some helpful suggestions in recognizing the bait and switch of care providers.
#1 When searching for a provider, and you get referrals for one or a few, ask the person who referred you why they love them. What if they loved them because they will do a scheduled cesarean no questions asked but that is not your plan. Or maybe they loved them because they would induce early. "Thanks Kelly for the recommendation, but what was so wonderful about your doctor/midwife?"
#2 Ask questions, a lot of questions. How does the doctor or midwife respond? Do they sit down and listen to you and show empathy,sympathy, joy,etc? Or do their egos seem to be the priority? Sometimes how they answer is a sign far more revealing then what they answer. "How much choice do I have in decision making? Do you foresee any problems with my birth preferences? In what situations do you recommend a cesarean?"
#3 Discuss your birth preferences often. Think of the three most important things of your birth preferences, after healthy mom and healthy baby. For example, let's imagine your top goals are vaginal birth, unmedicated and skin to skin. Ask your provider how he or she will support you to achieve your goal. As you discuss your birth preferences frequently, watch out for how different providers in a practice respond and if they change their answers when you talk to them.
#4 Watch out for emotional manipulation. What does that look like? A provider who says, "we allow you to" or "we will let you." A great provider recognizes that the woman is giving birth and doing the work, not themselves. They recognize it is about the mother, father and baby. They also recognize and tell you what you can be doing and that he or she believes in you. The provider is not telling you what you can't do. Remember you donot need permission to labor and birth.
#5 Trust your intuition! What is your mind telling you? "I don't feel like this provider is supporting my wishes" or "I feel like my provider is encouraging me in my decisions." Trust what your mind, body and even baby are telling you.